mistressmusings

mistressmusings @ 2008-07-08T22:07:00

2008-07-09T02:08:06Z

From CatalinaLoves

It’s no secret that I have a ridiculous crush on Lochai, and maybe a part of it is because I fell in love with his work as an artist. On top of all that I got to actually meet him yesterday and put my hands on his… prints (I know what you thought I was going to say!)

I know a lot of my readers are people who share my opinion about Lochai’s erotic and bondage images and also share my belief in supporting the art and the artists they love. That’s what this post is all about. Your opportunity to own real art while supporting the arts. It’s a win-win situation.

Lochai has a few gallery shows coming up. He talks about them in the interview we did recently here. In response to my question about his upcoming gallery shows, in particular the exhibition at the World Erotic Art Museum in Miami Beach, FL, this is what he had to say:

Wow…. To hang in a Museum is an amazing thing. To hang in this Museum is even a greater compliment in that the owner/curator, Naomi Wilzig, does not normally collect photography & has only just started to. She has thousands of painting, sculptures and other various articles that have moved her over the years and only a few photographs including ones from a good friend of mine, BT Charles. She has had many one person displays exhibited in the galleries in the 3 years WEAM has been open, but she asked me to be the first photographer. I am also a local so this adds to the pride I feel. Art gallery shows are wonderful but to say that you are displayed in a museum, for me that is something I am very proud of. I will also have Beach Bound added to the permanent collection. I was also the first heterosexual male artist to have a special “Guest Gallery” show that lasted a year of 30 of my images in the Leather Archives & Museum in Chicago http://www.leatherarchives.org/ which just came down in May.

So now here we are, it’s almost time for Lochai’s big show and now it’s time for me to get involved in the only way I know how. I’m holding my own Lochai Pledge Drive to help support Lochai’s upcoming gallery projects. He has never done this before and he may never do this again, it’s truly exclusive (and it will give your grandkids something to bring onto The Antique’s Roadshow!) Think of it is the kinky version of the PBS Pledge Drive - you know, you donate some money and they give you a nice gift to say thank you.

Here’s the rundown - you donate to Lochai’s upcoming shows. Donations are simple and easy - log into PayPal and use Lochai’s email address (nawalochai@kirinawa.com). You can even use your credit card. In return, as a thank-you gift, you receive one of Lochai’s signed prints. The print you will receive will be chosen by Lochai and is from his award-winning gallery.

Donate $25 and receive a signed 4×6 print. This is perfect to frame and put on your nightstand

Donate $50 and receive a signed 5×7 print. This is a perfect size to have on your desk, no?

Donate $75 and receive two signed 5 x 7 prints - a nice little complimentary set for your boudoir. I love the idea of having two complimentary, beautiful images, nicely framed and hung next to each other. MDS says he thinks it would be neat if you’re a couple to frame them and then put one on each of your nightstands. I love MDS. He’s so clever!

Donate $100 and receive one signed 8×10 print - perfect to hang on the wall. Actually Lochai gave me an 8×10 as a gift yesterday and it’s matted, framed, and perfectly placed on my desk, so an 8×10 is really a nice size - you can hang it or place it somewhere special.

For donations more generous than $100.00, please contact Lochai directly. Those donors will be considered sponsors and will not only have their name associated with the show as a sponsor, but as a thank-you gift will receive a signed, limited edition print in a larger size. Again, just contact Lochai directly to discuss this option. He’s a very friendy man!

In search of a Master?

2008-05-30T12:27:35Z

Midori wrote this great article. It's basically about how to help you figure out if your potential master really is a good fit for you, and things to look out for that might set off red flags.

I think it is important, really. I could imagine how hard it must be, to have that NEED to submit, and to be so excited about beginning a D/s relationship that you want to jump right in. The sad truth is that, for some, they find they have leap straight into a trap, or worse, and it's hard to get out of. Ending a relationship is hard, even in a D/s situation. I like Midori's article because it could actually prevent someone from jumping in too fast.

If you want to read it, click here

Is BDSM Un-American?

2008-03-12T17:30:27Z

This topic was brought up at socialkink.com and there was an article about it as well. I really thought it was interesting and I wanted to share it and get some feedback.

Here are some excerpts from the article:

In our star-spangled land of democracy, all citizens are fancied to have equal rights under the law. This equality is even encouraged to extend to the realm of sex and love. Marriages are supposed to be 50/50, give and take. Sex is idealized as an erotic extension of the Golden Rule: do your partner as you would have them do you. BDSM seems to be a complete departure from this mindset, a whips-and-chains autocracy. In reality, BDSM scenes or relationships are just as much of a give-and-take as vanilla sex. Both people in a BDSM relationship are there to have their needs met...
This is the paradox that makes BDSM so appealing. Subs are set free by completely giving up control to another...
The rest of the article is here, clicky

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Oour Date

2008-03-04T19:06:25Z

This is from My mia's blog, and I thought I would share it:

PART 1
Last night was amazing. After work Mistresswanted to spend some time with me.
She didn't want to go straight home so Wwe drove around. Wwe went to Goodwill to see if they had anything interesting. Mistress, Her hubby and i love to go to different thrift stores and find weird neat things to take pictures of. So Wwe ended up finding this neat looking octopus and these long clearglass looking cups with naked women on them that says Durty Annies . This reminded Mistress of Her cousin so She had to get it. After that Mistress wanted Uus to go food hopping. Where Wwe would go toa fast food and/or resturant pick one thing and share it and move on to the next place.Wwe first went to Jack In The Box and Wwe ordered macaroni bites and a large drink. Oour next stop was Chinese food. Wwe picked out crab rangoons. Yum! Then Wwe had Bonjangles southern filet biscuit (i think..lol) and Burger King's onion rings. By this point all this stuff was getting to Uus so Wwe drove around more. Wwe ended up stopping off at some Java place. Mistress picked out this Rocky Road coffee and tiger fudge. The fudge was amazing... the coffee not that much but only because i'm not a coffee drinker.

Just as i thought my night was over with Mistress things were just getting started.

Wwe went back to the car, Mistress told me to take off my glasses and She blindfolded me. At this point a million thoughts were going through my head. ....
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PART 2
Wwe got to the house and She started to set up things in the playroom. i got naked on my knees like i always do when Wwe play. The lights were dim, music playing; Mistress told me to take a seat on the chair. This was something new. She usually ties me up or She has me on the bench. i went over to the chair and sat down. She then tied my ankles to the back of the chair leg. Having both my legs spread wideopen. She then tied my hands to the back of the chair. i wasn't going anywhere and She made that very clear by the way She tied me up.She took off Her clothes and She had these very hot black lace booty undies with the letter N on the back and this very hot black lacetop. i melted in the chair seeing Her that way. i love looking at Mistress's hot beautiful body. She went over to where She has Her floggers, whips, crops and toys. Grabbed a crop and walked over to me. With an evil grin on Her face She ran the crop against my naked body. With the tip of the crop She started playing with my nipples then swung at it making me jump. Mistress smacked my thighs and tits as i squirmed from the pain. She then ran the crop between my legs teasing my clit moving it up and down making me get all excited then slapped my pussy with it making me jump. She continued to do this on and off for a few minutes.She thenbent over to reach for the massager. My pussy just tingled from excitement seeing Her hot whiteass bend over. Ready to have more fun. She turned on the vibrator and put it to my pussy. It felt amazing. Making me have orgasm after another squirming and moaning in the chair. Mistress smiled and watched me.

Moving my body up against the vibrator loving every moment of it to the point where i just couldn't handle it anymore.
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it's been a while!

2008-02-07T20:29:49Z

Wow it has been a while since I posted. I've been having severe back problems and I've been more like an alien abductee, what with the drs poking and prodding. Oh if only my fetish were of the medical variety, then I'd be a happy camper right about now lol!

Other than that things have been great and I've had a lot of time to relax online and read fanfic. I've been doing a lot of surfing too and I came across this great article about feminism in BDSM!! here's the link you might have to have a profile, but it's free.

I'm curious ladies...that article talks about sexism, patriarchy, gender roles, and feminism. I'd like to see what you all think of it, from all perspectives from Domme to female slave.

Assistance Please!!!

2007-05-24T14:44:08Z

Hey all!! My little cousin is a semi-finalist for Are You Smarter Than a Fifth Grader!! And that's as it should be because he's like the smartest 5th grader I know!!!

The only way this little guy can get through to the show is if he gets LOTS of VOTES!! Right now, only votes count...so I really need your help getting him there.

You can vote as many times as you want!!!

Please Vote for Austin B. (it's the button to the LEFT of his photo and name)

THANK YOU ALL!!!!!!!

mistressmusings @ 2007-05-16T12:00:00

2007-05-16T16:20:39Z

mia and I planted the daisies the other day. It is getting warmer and the flowers have already wilted. Afterwork today we are going to snip the plants back and let them settle in the new bed. Hopefully this will save them and they will bloom later. We also have to plant the rhododendruns and the rest of the flowers for the bed, plus we have to figure out where we are going to make the rose garden.

The past little while have been nice, at least with our family. I count myself as very fortunate.

I had to meditate between two of my VERY close friends. They are going through some hard times with their relationship and are thinking about splitting up. They also have recently moved a girl into their home to be a third. But here they are, just a few short weeks from the move-in, ready to split completely apart. It's breaking my heart because I love them both so much, yet I do support them both in what they decide...I just was happy that they called on me to help them sort out some communications issues. However, if they aren't a good fit for each other no amount of good communications is going to "fix" this. I just let them both know that if they needed anything I am here for them individually as well as a couple.

In fact out of all of my "couple friends" all but one set are going through this sort of thing. They are either getting a third (or a fourth) or are begining to swing or are splitting up all together. It's not that it's weird or that I am judging (which, I mean really, um, I can't seriously do that, esp considering my own family life lol) it's just that this has all happened within the past month and a half!! With all but ONE of my couple friends!!! That's just odd to me.

My mia has been wonderful, though!! she is doing these little things that show me that she is learning, paying attention, and loves me. she also stood up for herself at work and turned down a promotion because they wouldn't work with her schedule...I am very proud of that.

Last night the Hubs, mia and I all snuggled together and went to sleep. And even though I went to bed sick and woke up sick I still felt better than I have in a long time.

mistressmusings @ 2007-04-24T10:35:00

2007-04-24T14:42:12Z

I'm working on a new project at work, very stressful. I've also been scheduling out a lot of time to photoshoots. I promise I will start to actually make money doing this, but when it boils down to it, I end up volunteering for things simply because I love the art of it, eventhough I am over taxing myself.

As a result my body is rebelling against me and I'm having to take some inhaled steriods along with another inhaler and some antiboitics (which make me sick, nice). In the meantime, though, I have been able to spend a little time editing a TFcd project and planning other projects. This month is pretty much dedicated to making as many different kinds of photoshoots as possible and trying out new styles.

mia has been amazing.

Yesterday she brought me chicken noodle soup and crackers for lunch, it was so sweet because she know's that's what I like when I'm sick.

I am excited about settling down in a few and planting a garden with her. I have never really tried to garden before, but I love pretty flowers and I have always wanted a garden of my own. Yes I know I could just hire a gardener to make one for me, but I'm stubborn and I figure if I get one I might as well do it myself. Now I will have my mia to help me. she's even bought some seeds and some starter plants!!!!! I can't wait til they get here.

I love doing things with mia, like little projects or shipping trips that are just for Uus. Lately I've been so busy with photos that Oour weekly breakfast dates have suffered and I miss Oour special time. I think that getting out in the yard and growing things together will be a lot of fun!!

I was a pretty pretty princess ballerina

2007-03-20T13:59:49Z

You know those silly ideas that you have as a child of who you want to be and what you want to do when you grow up? I've had lots of those. Though I was an odd child, I had a 5-year and 10-year plan when I started middle school. Since then I have acheived all of my "dreams" except two.

I have traveled Europe. I have had my words and my photography published in various media from books to creative loafing to a german publication about art. I have won medals for my music. I have graduated with honors and acquired a double major and minor in a highly acredited university. But there are two things that I wanted "to be when I grew up" that I had yet to accomplish....a ballerina on stage and a princess :)

This past weekend I got to do both with House of Deville. In the 5th grade I took ballet on flats and I loved it, but I had to give it up so that I could work afterschool and I never got to take pointe. When Lilith Deville asked if I would be a princess ballerina for the show I said hells yeah!!! I quickly taught myself how to go up on pointe for the first time, spin, step, dance and choreography while looking as graceful as possible, and I'm not exactly known for my grace :p So there, I guess I can strike these off the list lol!

The show went great...considering the stage was exactly half the size we had practiced for and some drunk ass sat on one of the props and split it in two just before the second act!! The hubs is the propmaster and was able to fix this as it was an essential element in the show (it had to explode and collapse on cue, and thus needed to be upright to begin with). We were all very upset about this, as one of the sides of the prop collapsed before it was time...but we played it off and all was well and in the end the crowd went nuts so it was well worth it.

The weekend itself was highly unorganized and we ended up being rushed, which I hate, but it's part of it all so I've learned to take it in stride. mia on the otherhand is still new to this and she is still sensitive to the rushing hustle that goes into any live performance...she's a good girl though and was the picture of everything that makes me proud of her. I know that all of that was hard for her to process and I appreciated her hanging in and being so good throughout the whole ordeal because it showed me how much she was willing to go through for me. I told her as much, as much as I could while rushing here and there. In the end, though, I was happy to end the night with mia tucked into my arms.

Getting back into the work week has been a drain. But I informed mia that she and I will be taking off of work tomorrow to spend the day in D/s bliss and I for one am looking forward to it.

mistressmusings @ 2007-03-15T10:11:00

2007-03-15T15:23:49Z

This weekend will be a busy one indeed...but honestly that's just about each weekend of late.

I will be performing with House of DeVille and with Anders Manga at Cirque Macabre in Releigh, NC this weekend.

The House of DeVille show is all ready to go, just a few last minute props and costuming left to be done.

We'll be going to Raleigh Saturday morning, load-in is at 2pm and the doors open at 4pm...then the show goes to like 4am or something crazy like that :)

I am excited...this will be a nice break from all the craziness at work. Isn't it nice to just get away for a weekend and be a pretty pretty princess ballerina on stage, and then an assistant to an evil doctor on stage, and then a random partier for the rest of the event? Yeah...this life has it's perks at times ;)

indeed sigh

2007-03-09T22:34:04Z

last night started off well and with great intentions.

But I don't tolerate disobedience, eventhough I desperately needed peace.

I honestly don't like to punish, however it is necessary and worth it to help growth.

This morning mia and I had a VERY lengthy *discussion* and both were left drained...completely.

I think we all need a retreat, to just get away for a while and not emerge until things calm down. However we all have to work (which of course brings its own stress dynamics) and there's no "out" of this...however I do have a couple of ideas, so we'll see.

I am proud of mia though, I must say. I know she's been through a lot and I see her growth and hold her with pride...no matter what happens.

We all work together as well, and honestly this company is really going positively NUTS...My mia needs structure, she's not getting this at work and she brings this home. she's not used to dealing with this type of stress, and as much as it pains me I have to let her figure out on her own how to deal, I can only guide...I just wish I could take it from her, but I know that would not help her grow into the well adjusted person she is meant to be and it is important to me for her to be able to take this on.

Sometimes she doesn't think she can handle something, but she tries anyway and she always does the best she thinks she can do...which I am very proud of...but sometimes I know she can surprise herself, that she's capable of far more than she'll ever know, unless I push her a little to help her show herself what she can handle. This is never comfy though, is it? Guess that's why it's called "growing pains"

My babygirl is in quite a funk...I have to let her sort it out on her own...this is very hard on me, to sit back and watch...but she knows that eventhough she has to work this out for herself she is not alone, that I will always been right beside her no matter what.

exhale

2007-03-09T02:10:13Z

Tonight is looking like it's going to be a really nice night!! We all need it very badly right about now. But I've made it clear to all that eventhough life is crazy that's no excuse for losing connections and getting off center...so we're going to have a little bit of reconnection tonight...darn :)

I hate being a hard ass *grin* but sometimes it's needed to jerk a person out of their funk and make them focus on what's important. And right about now there's nothing more important than this family, this connection, and this bond that we've worked so hard to build.

Fun with Photos!

2007-03-02T17:21:48Z

I got to shoot with Cat again, it is so much fun tying her up...she always giggles :) Also I got to put her in her first tight-n-shinies!!

Here's just a taste...

DGT

2007-02-27T22:15:26Z

Today is Double Gym Tuesdays. Ugh...can you feel the enthhusiam!!

It seems that I am a glutton for punishment...but hey, at least it's for a good cause!!

The Leukemia and Lymphoma does a fundraiser each year called Team in Training. This is an endurance sport event that people participate in and the money raised goes to support TLLS. I chose Triathlon as my sport.

I have done several fundraiser, and in college I even designed a state-wide fundraiser for the AIDS Benefit Foundation in SC, and was even made an honorary Member of the Board. But I've never done an endurance sport in My life.

This event is special to My heart for a couple of reasons...

1) A couple of years ago I lost My MeMe to Leukemia. It was so hard to see her go through all that pain. It hurt when she passed on, but at least she wasn't the one hurting anymore.

2) Last year around this time I signed up, began raising money, and started training with the team...however the day before the actual event I was scheduled for heart surgery. Needless to say I didn't get to actually participate in the event.

Well I'm fine now and I'm gearing up for this time I WILL compete this time :) But I was obviously put back on the fitness level since surgery and I basically have to start over anew, no worries, just frustrating.

Tonight I get to log some miles on the treadmill, and then it's off to a swim class (did I mention last year I actually had to learn to swim!!)

However mia has some massage books and dvds that she is studying, so at least I'll be able to end this LONG day with a nice massage!!

mistressmusings @ 2007-02-18T14:20:00

2007-02-18T19:40:08Z

Today I sent mia for a nap after she got done with her work, she was so tired and I know Wwe've been very busy, so I've been worried that she's not getting enough rest. While she rested I continued getting a metric assload of photos together....then I have to go through each one, edit, the whole nine yards. I love what I do, but sometimes it can get tedious...especially when I am reorganizing the files and shoots, blah.
After a while I went up to her room and curled up behind her, used My hand warmers and relaxed a little with her. After a few minutes though I had to get back to work, setting up the studio, getting rope together, and junk like that. I was getting ready for a photoshoot on top of everything else I had to do.
Fortunately, however, the model flaked and didn't show up...which is fine, this was just a "fun time" shoot though so nothing was set in stone anyway and I rather enjoyed the surprise down-time, though I didn't get a chance to actually relax because I had lots of stuff to do.
In a few, however, I have to leave for rehearsal...no rest for the weary I guess :)

mistressmusings @ 2007-02-17T19:56:00

2007-02-18T01:30:24Z

Today was a lazy day, which is rare, but it's definitely not the usualy Saturday.
Last night was busy as all hell though...Wwe all went to eat,shared some miscommunication, got it sorted out, then went to a friend's place. I got to see a rare friend as well and hang out at her place for a bit...we tried to look up photos of Buck Angel as a woman, but no one could find any :(.
After that she and I played some in the studio while I took some photos, then Wwe began to play some more...My sweet little one doesn't seem too fond of the cane and the wax :) she did well though, and I must say she is incredibly hot when she's bent over though.
This am Wwe got manicures and pedicures as a gift from the hubby to both of Uus because he's sweet like that.
Tomorrow I have a photoshoot scheduled and a rehearsal for another show I'll be in this April. Today, though, it's good to be lazy!

Today's a great day for playing TAG! :)

2007-02-16T22:24:41Z

1. Grab the nearest book.
2. Open the book to page 103.
3. Find the fifth sentence.
4. Post the text of the next 2 sentences on your blog along with these instructions.
5. Don't you dare dig for that "cool" or "intellectual" book in your closet! I know you were thinking about it! Just pick up whatever is closest.
6. Tag five people. Or not, it's entirely up to you.

Um, I'm at work...however I'm a huge dork at heart and thus the nearest book is "Religions of Star Trek"

"To its credit, however, Star Trek has been willing to offer alternate scenarios, and to question the assumptions that underlie our culture's body-mind split, by offering examples of religious specialists whose practices unite the nody and mind successfully. Often they appear in the exploration of other species' cultures, although the types are familiar to us from the history of religions on Earth."

If you can read this...tag, you're it!

Slumber Party!!!

2007-02-16T19:39:12Z

You have been Invited to a BDSM slumber party. The rules are as follows. You are allowed to bring with you 5 items to play with and or share with the party. You may not copy anyone else's answers, but you may alter them to make them different,and when you are finished you MUST tag 5 new people to come to the party. You MAY be tagged more than once, so be creative in answers.

I'm bringing....

1) magic shell chocolate sauce and ice cubes .... mmmmmmmm
2) electro gear with wartenberger wheel, electro butt plug and conductive chain mail bra and panties
3) remote control clit vibes for everyone, each controler is placed in a hat and selected randomly by each other member of the party, the fun is to see who your remote control "controls" lol!!
4) a gag, of course...I'd love to watch you lovelies play "pass the gag" (you hold this gag in your mouth and pass it to the mouth of the next lovely and so on until someone "accidentally" drops the gag...and well mmmm)
5) twister...babyoil...nekkid lovelies...you do the math!
I tag...........</a>
</a>polybdsmadhouse
</a>being_elodie
</a>just_his_girl
</a>controlledgirl</a>mlordslittleone
...and all the rest of you out there in flistdom!

TIRED!!

2007-02-15T21:42:44Z

Ugh!! Last night just went ON and ON and ON!!! Sometimes I have to "bite My toungue" when dealing with people so as not to let out the "RAWR".

I *hate* having My time wasted...who doesn't!! mia and I went to practice for a show I am going to be in and I was nice and gave a ride to another of the actors. This guy made Uus 2.5 hours LATE!! I was nice and obliged him and drove him to pick up things he left in his house, then I had to sit as he made himself comfy at his house...all the while politely nudging him towards the door. ugh.
Breathe, it's ok...it's just time...
Once Wwe finally got to practice the other actor was cool about the delay, but still...then there was "socialize" time...I politely nudged them to move on with practice...these are My friends and in our little circle of performers there are friends and there are "divas". I am a very nice and diplomatic person, and I didn't want them to think "diva" of Me lol!! But honestly I had decided that enough was enough and if they weren't going to listen to Sweet Me, then it was time to take control of the situation! Finally...and all it took was a nice simple kick-ass Me, now why didn't I think to do that earlier? Oh yeah, because I'm "nice" LOL!!!

My sweet little one was so good though, she watched and was pleasant and gave Me smiles while I practiced. she knows that I hate wasting time and that I was at the point of getting frustrated at how long practice was taking.

...side note...the last time I brought a submissive other than mia to a show practice, it was actually to a shoot for a music video I was in (I brought them to help be My assistants as I had many props/costumes/etc I would have to get on and off Me quickly, and they were fully prepped that this would be a long and stressful day for Me)...for the first 10-15 minutes or so they were starstruck yet pleasant...but after that short time they both turned bitchy and whiny, so much so that I actually had to break from the troupe to attend to them so that they would not disturb the rest of the cast!!!! This is a testament to how much I love and trust mia to behave and to uphold My honor when doing things like this.

I felt so awful though, because by the time Wwe both got back home it was truly too late for My mia to enjoy the VDay surprise hubby and I had cooked up for her. Sigh.

It is now known that I will not tolerate a practice such as this a second time as My time won't be wasted again. My interests and hobbies do take up time, however that time is worth it if is it productive...over-long chatting and traipsing all over town because of some insignificant forgotten item (it actually wasn't needed for practice, which I didn't know at the time), that sort of thing is just wasteful.

By the home I got home all I wanted to do was to pick up My mia and put her in the playroom, strip her down, and give her a nice happy spanking for being so good while Wwe had to go through the whole ordeal....well a spanking among other things, which included partial suspension by way of new padded leather restraints I had gotten yesterday! Alas, there will be time enough for that, and all the more wonderful once My babygirl has been rested!!

Happy Valentine's Day!

2007-02-14T17:26:19Z

Normally Hubby and I don't really celebrate VDay...after ten years together we've gotten tired of this kind of thing...but this year it is special because I have My little monita, mia.

EARLY this am, I hear a light rapping on My bedroom door. WTF? I know My mia has been hurting with being female this week, so I thought maybe she needed something, so I woke up and went to the door.

I open the door to find a naked mia holding a silver serving tray with a breakfast and hot chocolate, which she kneeled to present to Me. mia knows that I've never had real hot chocolate before, you know the kind with milk and the stove...I told her this a while ago, and it seems My mia pays attention to Me ;) she even used the special chocolate she got from a Spanish market to make it all authentic.

This really started My day off!!

As My sleepy eyes took in My sweet mia shivering naked and cold I put My comfy bathrobe around her shoulders and hugged her and told her how sweet she was. I was further surprised when I got to My desk at work where I was greeted with a card, a teddybear holding a balloon, and heart shaped muffin pan (mia knows I love to bake!). This is mia's FIRST Valentine's Day, she's never really celebrated this with someone, other than the card exchange fromgrade school so she wanted to do the traditional VDay type stuff for Me. she's such a good girl.

Also I am now the proud owner of Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink SIGNED BY MIDORI!!!

So far this day is great!!!

I've got a little surprise planned for mia as well...but I am stringing her along until her collar anniversary on the 22nd, there's also a built in riddle that she must figure out in order to get her surprise!!! I'm make her wait and I'm making her work for it because I am a big ol meanie :)

I hope everyone's Valentine's Day is wonderful!!
Hugs and Kisses to you all!

Bondage Photos...

2007-02-13T19:59:39Z

I got to tie up a good friend of Mine in My studio the other day. I didn't have as much time as I'd have liked, however it's understandable because she has kids she needed to wrangle before she could come over and get all bound up lol!! But honestly this was rather fun times for Me as this was the first time I had tied her up, also she's VERY selective about whom she let's see this side of her.

I love tying up women, it's always appealed to Me, even as a child. I was known for My creative ways to tie a girl to a tree/swingset/chair when I was little and would play Cops and Robbers (I always played on the boys side!!) so really it's no wonder why I have this teeny little Freudian affinity for bondage.

Anyway... :)

Eventhough the ropework was for a shoot, I always get a therapeutic release when I do it. I don't know...it gives Me something to focus on, it's very Zen, it's like My whole world shrinks to where there is only Me, the rope, and skin.

Eventhough I didn't have much time to get any very complicated ties, I still had fun...

There now, wasn't that fun!! I really love what I do sometimes :)

My first performance with a submissive

2007-02-12T22:15:14Z

This weekend was crazy!! But fun!

mia and I were on stage together! This is the first time I have ever allowed a submissive to be in a performance with Me. Not to say I haven't had submissives that were interested, however as a performer I have very high standards. mia, on the other hand, well lets just say I had no doubt that she would make Me proud. she performed beautifully, and conducted herself through the stressful practice schedule in a manner that made Me very proud indeed.

Oour performance was the opening show at the fetish event where I perform and take photos. Wwe all had a great time with it and the crowd absolutely went nuts!

There's an ironic twist to this, though...as you will see...

When casting for the show, Mistress Amy (a very sweet friend of Mine), asked if mia could fill a part, and I agreed to it.

Setting: 1940's Catholic Church. The Virgin Mary Statue is in position off-set center stage with two prayer benches along each side. Candles and a coffer are set to the side near the entrance, along with a stained glass window.

Two women (one is mia) walk in and give an offering in the coffer and light prayer candles, cross themselves in front of the Virgin and go to their separate benches to pray in silence.
Then a gangster runs in with a wad of money in hand, and searches for a place to hide, thinking that the church will protect him (well her, it’s an all-girl performance) from the gangsters he’s running from. He hides behind the praying girl farthest from the entrance.
In comes me as a gangster, I look around and signal my Henchman to come forward as well. I spot the first gangster and bring her stage front…my right hand gripping her shirt and demanding my money. I finally get the money and toss it to my henchman and throw the gangster to the ground. Henchman and I proceed to kick the gangster repeatedly, then I grab her up and throw her on a platform and the henchman shoots her in the back of the head. As she falls “dead” the first girl (not mia) screams and mia hides behind the Virgin.
I grab the girl and bring her stage-front and proceed to rip off her clothes and present her to the audience while Henchman grabs his dick (yup, she’s packing!!) and forces the Catholic girl to suck her off.
Once done, I take my turn and throw the girl to the ground, put my boot on the back of her head and pretend to stroke my own cock through my pants, then I turn her on her back and pull her to me with her legs, I stand over her and force her on the ground as I choke her. The music stops and we are all still for a moment. Unbeknownst to me the Virgin then comes to life at the sight of a good Catholic girl being abused in this way.
Mary pushes me off the girl, and has the girl hold me on my knees on the ground. Mary then instructs mia to hold the Henchman still. My mia then stands holding the Henchman’s arms behind her back. Then Mary turns her attention to the Henchman.
I watch in horror as Mary seduces and then cuts off Henchman’s penis and throws Henchman to the ground. Mary then turns her attention on me as I scream…Mary puts Henchman’s disembodied cock in my mouth and then slaps me to the ground.
Here’s the ironic twist…mia and the other girl have to grab me up off the floor and strap me to the cross so that Mary can beat the shit out of me!!! My sweet little mia!! J
Anyway, I get my shirt ripped open down the back and then I get a nice little whacking with a quirt (to warm me up), then a single tail at length. After my beating the two girls take me off the cross and turn me around to the audience and Mary grabs four of the burning red candles and proceeds to pour it over my chest and stomach, and on the palms of my outstretched hands (held in place by the girls).
Once that is done I am pushed into a “Jesus pose” so that the audience can see the red spots on my palms and the red slash on my stomach. Then I am thrown done with my Henchman to suffer.
This deed done, Mary then goes to the first gangster and touches her forehead, then goes back to her cross and returns to a statue with in the knowledge that her church is now safe. The gangster slowly revives and is brought to life…she looks at the blood smeared on her and see us lying in agony off to the side and realizes what happened. The first gangster come to get a closer look at us, grabs the money from the Henchman’s front pocket and places it in the coffer before crossing herself and kneeling before the Virgin.
End show.

So you see, My sweet mia got to be one of the ones to tie Me up so that I can get My ass (well back) beaten by a quirt and single tail. Upon initial casting I let them know that mia has never been on stage before, and also I will not allow anyone to hit/beat/flog her but Myself as she is new to pain and she belongs only to Me. Mistress Amy fully understood. I was obliged to take the role of the “beaten gangster” because I was the only one in the cast (other than Amy, who was Mary) that could handle that kind of a beating…and I didn’t mind at all…it’s been a while since I was trained and beaten lol. I have happy welts and marks to memorialize the performance for a few days.

I am so happy that mia and I got to share that experience together. Wwe have been getting a lot more connected on many levels and it makes Me happy to know that I can trust her and share parts of My life with her.

Tag, I'm it :)

2007-02-07T20:22:09Z

Rules: Each player of this game starts off with 10 weird things/habits/little known facts about yourself.

People who get tagged need to write a blog of their own 10 weird habits/things/little known facts, as well as state this rule clearly.

At the end you need to choose 10 people to be tagged and list their names.
No tagbacks.

1. I have an extra vertebre in my spine...irony: my mother is missing a vertebre in her spine.
2. I'm a bit of a geek, so much so that mia gave me a binary watch for christmas
3. I am training for a triathlon...last year I trained with the same group (it's a charity for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society) and the friday before the event I was scheduled for a triple ablation heart surgery. Side note, but interesting: the surgery was on mine and the hubby's two year anniverary June 13, I stayed in room 13 and was there for exactly 13 hours before I was discharged.
4. I hate the feeling of lotion, oils, or wetness on my skin, but I love to walk around in the rain
5. I am a trained and practicing Shibari artist
6. I work in the porn industry, but not as a pornstar lol, I am a business analyst and project manager. I came into this somehow from an licensed investments background
7. We collect old metal lunchboxes, we have over 200 of them and most are displayed in our house in place of a wallpaper border, see clicky
8. I am a fetish photographer and performer
9. We have 3 dogs, 3 cats, 2 ferrets and 2 turtles who are our children...and currently we have 6 little pups in the mix,though they are quickly finding wonderful happy homes.
10. I love to cook and bake and decorate cakes and whatnot, Martha Stewart ain't got nothin on me lol :)

I'm still just getting to know you folk, so I hesitate to tag anyone...though I must say this seems to be an interesting way of getting to know people ;)

mistressmusings @ 2007-02-05T10:57:00

2007-02-05T16:12:18Z

There's nothing hotter than a naked, sexy, submissive bound and on her knees begging for you. Especially when her hands and arms are stretched above her head and she's bound to the ceiling and must crawl on her knees to reach you while the binds limit her movement and reach.

mmm coffee and spankings!

2007-01-26T15:20:34Z

mia is getting damned good with her coffee making skills, I'm a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to things, especially My morning coffee!!