This topic was brought up at socialkink.com and there was an article about it as well. I really thought it was interesting and I wanted to share it and get some feedback.

Here are some excerpts from the article:

In our star-spangled land of democracy, all citizens are fancied to have equal rights under the law. This equality is even encouraged to extend to the realm of sex and love. Marriages are supposed to be 50/50, give and take. Sex is idealized as an erotic extension of the Golden Rule: do your partner as you would have them do you. BDSM seems to be a complete departure from this mindset, a whips-and-chains autocracy. In reality, BDSM scenes or relationships are just as much of a give-and-take as vanilla sex. Both people in a BDSM relationship are there to have their needs met...
This is the paradox that makes BDSM so appealing. Subs are set free by completely giving up control to another...
The rest of the article is here, clicky


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